The question of whether or not maniacal brides are real is actually a very good one. Yes, many people swear by their existence like it’s a law of the universe, but their presence is certainly exaggerated in popular culture. The ladies on that Bridezilla reality show were paid to act like that, and the atrocious movie Bride Wars was by no means a documentary. Cat-fights in the aisle at a wedding do not occur in nature.
However, there are definitely women who go a little nuts when it comes to their weddings. This is kind of understandable when you consider that lots of women have been more or less raised to believe that this is supposed to be the one day in which you get to be a princess, at least apart from the prom. If you miss out on your one day to be a princess, it can be a real let-down. There’s also the fact that lots of women have been led to believe that it takes a great wedding to make for a happy marriage. A bad wedding, in marriage lore, is only going to lead to a bad marriage down the line.
If we want to cure Bridezilla tendencies, we’re going to have to go down to the basics. We’ll have to work together as a society to try to fix them, because the sufferers of this syndrome cannot be cured on their own. We’ll have to get together and make it clear that weddings are important, but they’re not the most important thing in the world. Rain on your wedding day doesn’t mean your marriage is headed for Seattle, so to speak, and Seattle is kind of a nice place.
You can be a princess every single day if you want, and you don’t have to save everything for this single day on any level. Your marriage and the love that it represents is what is going to count. The wedding, as fun and exciting as it is, is ultimately just a party. It should be a great party, but it isn’t the party to end all parties, at least not in a bad way.
Curing Bridezilla syndrome is going to take time. The roots are deep in the wedding industry and in our culture. However, it can be done. In the days when your parents just planned your whole wedding for you anyway, this was barely even a disease. It can go back to being dormant again.