The Perfect Day is After the Wedding

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You’ll hear all the time about how your wedding is the happiest day of your life. I hear people saying that all the time. When they’re asked about the happiest days of their lives, people will inevitably refer to their weddings if they’re married. Maybe some people might talk about the birth of their children if they have kids. I guess really young people might talk about the day they graduated high school or college or the day that they got their drivers’ licenses. All I can say is, I really hope your wedding isn’t going to be the best day of your life, because that may well say nothing positive about your life.

Your wedding is going to be a hassle. It’s probably the biggest day that you’re ever going to plan. How often do you hire caterers, priests, deejays, and wait staff and try to get them all in the same room together at some point? It feels like the setup for a bad joke, and that’s often the way that it is if the wedding doesn’t go well. In addition to all these different folks from really different industries, you have to get all of your friends and relatives in a room together too. That’s a lot of opportunities for crazy occurrences and mishaps.

Even if your wedding day goes completely smoothly, getting there is going to be the hard part. You may end up spending months in preparation for it, and then, it will be over in one day. It’s like a horse race, only there’s hopefully no gambling involved. Usually, by the time the day is actually almost there, you’re going to feel exhausted by the whole thing, and it will be just another time-consuming event to get out of the way.

The thing is, in many ways, that situation is even better. The fact that you’re going to be that relieved to get the wedding out of the way means that the day after the wedding is really going to be the happiest day of your life. You’re married to your beloved at last. The two of you have publicly declared your love for one another. You survived an encounter with all of your relatives and everyone else. Now, you can enjoy wedded bliss and the rest of the honeymoon. In addition to all of that, you can be relieved that the wedding is over and it only happens once.

This may sound like a negative take, but it’s more positive than it sounds. Do you really want the best part of your marriage to be the first day? That’s over before you know it. Really, the best part of your marriage doesn’t even have to be the second day. The best part of any marriage is going to be different for everyone. The thing is, knowing that your wedding doesn’t have to be the best day of your life should let you off the hook a little.

If you didn’t really enjoy your wedding all that much, it doesn’t mean that you did it wrong or that you’re doing it wrong. It also doesn’t mean that anything bad is going to happen to your marriage, or that your marriage is automatically going to get off on the wrong foot. Lots of happy marriages didn’t spring from happy weddings. There are also plenty of marriages in which it was pretty much all downhill from there after the wedding, and who wants that? Even if your wedding didn’t go well, your marriage can still be fantastic. You’ll have countless days to get that right, and only one day to get your wedding right.