You and Your Wedding Planner

Some people have great experiences with their wedding planners. Other people may feel as if their wedding planners have become additional annoying relatives by the end of the wedding. Of course, plenty of wedding planners are going to feel the same way. Some wedding planners take their jobs and everything about their jobs way too seriously, making you feel like you’re scheduling a surgery instead of a wedding. Other wedding planners are so laid-back that you wonder whether or not they’re even going to get the job done. Sometimes, the quality of a wedding or lack thereof can be traced to the wedding planner.

It’s important to find a wedding planner that you click with in one way or another. Plenty of competent wedding planners just don’t bond with their clients for whatever reason. They may have very different tastes, or very different personalities. In some cases, you’re better off trying to interview an assortment of different wedding planners in order to find a good match for you, taking into account your specific plans for your wedding.

It’s easy to research wedding planners these days. All of the wedding planners that you could possibly find are going to have their own websites. Lots of them will probably have their own social media profiles. It should be easy to get a sense of their personality on the basis of how they interact with people on social media in many cases. That may not tell you the whole story, but it will at least give you an idea of what to expect.

Of course, the real story for anyone in business in the twenty-first century is going to be in the customer reviews that they attract. If you’re looking for a great wedding planner, the first thing you should try to find are customer reviews. Any great wedding planner will attract lots of customer reviews, and they will usually run the gamut. You shouldn’t worry about finding a few negative reviews, especially if there are dozens or hundreds of them. In fact, the presence of negative reviews in that situation should be seen as something of a positive sign.

If there are only a few reviews, and the majority of them are vague or brief, you should take that as a bad sign. Anyone can post customer reviews like these, and they don’t necessarily have to be real. There is no governing body that will ensure that you get honest reviews, especially since falsely flattering reviews are so cheap these days. However, if you see a full range of reviews and many of them are both positive and detailed, you’ve probably at least run into an objectively good wedding planner. That doesn’t mean that he or she is going to be the right wedding planner for you, but it does mean that you have a good chance.

At that point, you should try to set aside time to actually interview wedding planners. It may seem like a big and unnecessary step, but trust me, big and seemingly unnecessary steps are a huge part of planning a wedding in the first place. You’ll save yourself a lot of aggravation and frustration by making sure you get the right wedding planner to begin with, or this one little annoying chore of an interview is going to be replaced by a long list of annoying chores that can damage the whole wedding ceremony.

At the end of the day though, I do think people should go easy on their wedding planners. Their wedding planners are doing a million things at once and working under extreme pressure. If you’re a wedding planner, you are literally planning an occasion that the other person thinks is going to be the best day of his or her life. Even if your particular client isn’t saying that or thinking that, you don’t always know that, and that is the cultural expectation. There are so many little details to square away before the actual day that it can be overwhelming for the wedding planner. They often have to appease relatives, caterers, deejays, and an assortment of other people all at once, and they’ll be fending off suggestions from everyone.

If it makes you feel better once you’ve had some sort of quarrel with your wedding planner, he or she probably still had at least as bad of a time as you did, if not worse. At least when your wedding is out of the way, you can move on with your life. Your poor wedding planner is going to have to do this over and over again for years to come. Yes, he or she chose this and yes it’s a living, but it’s fun to think about if you end up in any conflict with anyone as a result.